Can we PLEASE talk about how there is a big difference between WAVING, SMILING, and SAYING HELLO when you walk past someone on the street and STREET HARASSING PEOPLE.

There is a BIG GOD DAMN DIFFERENCE.

And I identify as feminist but I get pissed that there are feminists who think that…

Street harassment in ny is the WORST

the other day my roommate and I were taking a nighttime stroll through the park in our sweatpants and t shirts and we walk past this group of guys, who get all quiet while one of them called out, “hello ladies.”
And neither of us responded, so one of them…

Pretty much every day I get cat called on the street (every day I actually leave the house)

So I’m wondering, instead of fuck off maybe I should ask them some of the twisted things I’ve been asked by randomers on the Internet, in the hope that they will be as uninterested as I was when I received…

I was told that a man saying a simple “hello” or “good morning” isn’t harassment at all and that it’s harmless. I was told that women are just overreacting or even being a bitch when we refuse to speak back or otherwise reject that kind of behavior.

But yesterday when I was walking home from…

I know I’ve mentioned this numerous times before (so please excuse me for repeating myself, it is relevant to this blog), but I have B.D.D. This makes summer a bit of a pisser, as I scramble to find ways of remaining cool while keeping covered in the ever increasing heat. My family and I have a…

The thing that bothers me about street harassment is that they might say something perfectly complimentary and then people blow all your feelings of discomfort off

Like those people on the train said “you have such a beautiful face” which can be nice! That should be a nice thing to say to…

When I was a freshman in college, I went to Woody’s, a gay bar in center city, with a few friends. At the end of the night, I went outside to get some air while waiting for my friends to meet me. It happened to be the same night of a big Phillies game… and there were cars lined up on the street in a traffic jam, honking their horns and going wild… 

Next thing I knew, I was being pulled into the back of a truck where at least six grown men were screaming names at me, ripping at my dress and punching me to keep me down…

Luckily, due to the congestion of cars, a stranger on the street was able to pull me out of the truck before they had the chance to drive away… the cops said there was simply “nothing” they could do since I didn’t have a license plate number or any way to identify them.

I guess this experience kind of shaped my belief that as a woman, I would just have to put up with harassment from men. It made me believe that being catcalled on the street was no big deal. But as we accept it, we start to let bigger things happen. We start to lose a sense of power, and we give into society’s wrongs rather than joining together and letting people know that no, it’s not OK.

Cary Carr