some guys driving a bit away behind me honked at me like 10 times and when they passed shouted “WOOOOO!”
then some other guys drove past and whistled. One of them was hanging their head out of the window flicking their tongue at me.
That doesn’t make me feel pretty.
That makes me feel gross, even more so because I don’t know if they were serious or if they were making fun of me
To the little girl (approx 3/4) who called out from her mum’s car “hello lady, you look really nice!” - you made my day.
To the guy who shouted something less pleasant from his car and then slowed down to follow me down the road - not so much.
ahhh yes. walking home from work, in jeans and a t-shirt, listening to music and waiting for the light to change. THAT’S the time i want some random dude in his car to tell me how much he wants to fuck me. yeah.
Seriously tho. Why *should* she be asked to smile?
Asking a woman to smile is to make her more approachable. It’s to make you feel more comfortable - not her. I, personally, have zero fucks to give about being approachable to strange men on the street. Women are not here to entertain and please random folks.
Asking me to smile is akin to asking me to jump. Um. For what?There’s this weird responsibility placed on women to be happy and lady-like and pleasant all of the time. It rids us of being able to express our own range of human emotions.
No one is asking for men and women to not interact with each other. That’s silly. This project is asking for women to be interacted with as if they have agency over their own bodies.
Creator of the Stop Telling Women To Smile project responded to a person who thinks women not smiling on demand is proof of the end of the world and division among men and women. (Seriously? WTF.)
Funny…I told my best friend about that person’s comment and she said it is the end of the world and division…for that person. A world shaped by the status quo is a world being shaken by the resistance to this status quo. The amount of hatred and bile I’ve faced since I started speaking out about street harassment has been interesting in that some men genuinely process harming women as necessary to their masculinity and thereby their identity. They think critique and rejection of street harassment is an attack on their identity, which is frightening…
"Asking me to smile is akin to asking me to jump. Um. For what?"
Man I love this warm spring weather. Only downside: the street harassers all come out of their pits of filth.
So my 8 year old sister told me that yesterday a car drove past her and a boy who was about 7 yelled “I want to kiss you!” out the window at her....
…it’s not the number one, I’ve been harassed countless times but I’ll start noting and counting them from now on just to see.
Him : Good evening